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Conversations With GG
on Fear of Death
Dear G.G.,
I was adopted at birth. When I developed some health problems I needed to find out about my parents. Well, I found out my mother died at 35 of breast cancer, and although I don't have that, I've developed a dreadful fear that I would also get cancer and die.
I can even see myself dying at 35.
Recently I was talking to a friend and she said, "Stop that! Don't you know that your constant thinking about this could make it happen?"
I was startled by her reaction. She is a reader of your newspaper and suggested I write to you. Is there anything I can do to get over this fear? I feel a little silly talking about it, but I respect her opinion of your opinion.
Please give me your thoughts on this.
Sincerely, K.H.
Dear K.H.
There are many people who worry in this manner when a parent dies at a young age, apparently feeling "the sins of the father are visited on the children."
Realistically, however, it is not a good idea to program ourselves with negative thoughts. The truth is, many things happen in a lifetime which can change the course of our personal experience for positive or for negative. I firmly believe, just as we share in the vibration of "error" in our world, we also share in the vibration of "blessings."
All too often negative thoughts, which produce and tie us to a very coarse vibration, are affirmed over and over, while positive thoughts, which could be described as meek and refined, are not utilized. Because of this phenomena, we must work diligently to overcome fear and the many things it produces, i.e., worry, jealousy, prejudice, anger, greed, lust, etc.
Some individuals, especially if agnostic, will have a difficult time relating to the concept of "grace." Yet grace is a real power in our time. It is through this God -given act of mercy that disasters are changed to miracles.
Major changes in our world reflect this drama. As in the movie "Star Wars", the forces of good and evil are well defined. At first glance, it would appear there are no gray areas, yet, it is in the gray area where most of us face our problems related to fear. It is in the deep subconscious states of being that negative thoughts are formed and nourished. This is why those thoughts are so powerful, and why the process of moving from darkness into the light, from fear to peace, will require a lifelong commitment to change.
As difficult as this healing change may be, the commitment must be made, as
any former abuser will attest. When mental and emotional bondage is connected to base habits, such as alcohol and/or drug abuse, or the misuse of sex, energies easily flow into and support negative thoughts and the ultimate destruction of whatever is good in that life.
To reverse this, a free will decision must be made, which neutralizes negative energy, often manifesting as a conscious lifestyle change, and again, I must stress, made as an act of the will. Along with this decision comes knowledge and the ability to observe oneself in action and reaction. Observation is a tool to our spiritual advancement.
Once we become aware that all of life is a manifestation of free will, we begin to accept there are things we don't understand. We become less attached to what we think and feel, and we begin to watch life from within ourselvesas though we were watching a movie. Once this 'freeing agent' I call 'observation' is grounded into our awareness, negative thoughts and projections lose power over us.
Gradually fears, like the fear you have of an early death, simply lose energyas we are no longer feeding them. When it is not important to you, you will simply forget it, and replace it with another thought form that is more meaningful to you within that moment.
This is good; it means you have opened yourself to the transformational processwhich is, and will become a lifetime discipline.
One day you will know that nothing is the way it appears. And because of this, the search for truth will be on. The truth that will set you free, can only come from within yourself.
Seek truth and miracles will happen everyday of your life.
Love, Your friend,
GG
Gloria became an award-winning journalist as editor and co-publisher of Reno's Communicator Community News for twelve years. She recently published a book called Good and Evil In Our Times, which explores the fundamental principals that produce evil in our world. And, more importantly how detachment can be learned and used to work for change. Good and Evil In Our Times (ISBN# 0-9645796-1-8) is available through your favorite bookstore.Or here in the book section. Also, her second book, Enter The Silence is available as an electronic book for $ 8.00. Go to the book section and click on Enter The Silence.
Email questions to: Gloria Joy Greco